After nearly five years No Sense of Direction has changed quite a lot. I originally created this blog under the name From New York to Greece as a study abroad travel blog. I was having a hard time getting interviews for internships because I didn’t have anything to add to my resume besides my then job at Macy’s.
When I got back from Greece I found I didn’t have anything else to write about. I didn’t have money to travel and new opportunities took me away from writing. I didn’t necessarily think about blogging when I went on vacation to London and Paris in 2017. Once I got home I felt an itch to write about my experience and though my posts since then are far and few in-between that itch never went away.
Which is why I’ve started to write about my life, goals and aspirations. I changed the name of the blog so it could fit not only my travels but my life in general because I really have no sense of direction in my life.
I don’t know where I’m going but I’m starting to enjoy the journey.
I figured after all these years I would finally introduce myself. My name is Alyssa and here are 25 facts about me:
- Like Adrienne Bailon, my dream is to one day be interviewed by Latina magazine. I don’t want to be the cover star and I don’t need a huge spread. I just want to accomplish something in my life that makes me worth interviewing. Bonus: I was an intern for Latina.com when I was a college student. You can find the three articles I wrote for their website here.
- I’m 100% Puerto Rican but I can’t speak Spanish. I have taken classes, tried Rosetta Stone and watched La Fea Mas Bella on a loop. No matter how hard I try I can’t think in the language.
- On my sixteenth birthday, my grandmother gave me the gift of words. When no one else was around she said in perfect English to my mother, “Alyssa is so smart it’s because of her I know.” She only ever spoke English to me. She said some words here and there when she talked to my cousins but with me I got the gift of sentences and stories. I used to sit on her bed and listen to her talk in a low voice about life in Puerto Rico and how lonely she was without her brothers and sisters. My grandmother, a woman with a first grade education, said it was because of me that she knew so many things.
- At the end of 2017 I decided to take a year off from dating. I am a serial monogamist. I have gone from a six year relationship to a short five month one and then a two-and-a-half year relationship. Belong alone and lonely is hard but I decided to take this time to learn about who I am, what I have to offer and figure out why my relationships keep ending.
- I legitimately have escalaphobia, which means I fear escalators. I can go up an escalator but I can’t go down one. Visiting London was great but they really need to add some stairs to all of the stations.
- After reading an article about the band Good Charlotte in Rolling Stone magazine I wanted to become a journalist but I resisted the idea for a long time because they don’t make a lot of money. I decided I wanted to work in television after watching an episode of The Wendy Williams Show. The specific episode in question had the Kardashians on. I didn’t know who they were and didn’t know who Wendy was but I was captivated by the theatrics of the show. The leopard, the gossip and the disco music in the beginning of the show. For the record, I don’t want to be Wendy because I’m more of a behind the scenes kind of girl. I wanted to be whoever was in charge of Hot Topics. Bonus: Wendy Williams called me cute when I was an intern.
- I’m on an ongoing quest to find the best ice cream in New York City…even though I’m lactose intolerant.
- My make or break moment in my career was when I was a production assistant on an online dating documentary. It was the first show I worked on from beginning to end and I had no clue what I was doing. You can only learn so much in school and from internships. Being an employee is completely different. After we wrapped our last shoot my boss came up to me and gave me a big hug and told me how amazing she thought I did. I felt a surge of confidence in that moment. That feeling has been with me ever since.
- My first introduction to fitness was a tae-bo DVD by Billy Blanks. When I was in high school a girl that was masquerading as my friend told me I was fat and no one wanted to date me. So I took her words and spent our entire winter break doing Billy Blanks Bootcamp every single day. I could barely move my arms by the end of it but when I came back to school I was six pounds lighter and she was jealous and told me I looked skinny. I still use that DVD when I need a good quick at home workout.
- Halloween is my favorite holiday. My favorite costumes to date: Wonder Woman, ring leader, and Barbie cheerleader.
- I’m very type-A. I make lists for everything from grocery shopping, to what needs to be cleaned, to what I’m buying everyone for Christmas…down to the last cent. My entire family thinks I’m crazy because I start Christmas shopping in July in order to get the best sales.
- For my 30th birthday I want to go to on a solo trip to Australia. I have four and a half years left to save…and to break it to my mother she’s not invited.
- I have two tattoos and am planning on getting a third to honor my best friend. A rose, for the prettiest Belle I’ve ever seen.
- My mother is my travel buddy. One of my goals in life was to take her on vacation and foot the bill. Last year I did just that and took her to London and Paris.
- For my first concert ever I saw NSYNC and Jessica Simpson. She split her white pants while performing and talked about it in an interview years later.
- My first real concert–where people played actual instruments and could sing–was The Police for my high school graduation. I sat in the first row and watched Sting glisten.
- Most people are surprised to learn I’m a big fan of 70’s/80’s bands. I have seen Motley Crue, Guns and Roses, Aerosmith, Poison, Def Leppard, Alice Cooper and KISS in concert. I have no shame in admitting one of the greatest moments in my life was when Tommy Lee threw fake blood on me.
- After a nine year hiatus I started playing the guitar again. I rock at Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.
- 25 years old and I can’t ride a bike. Tried to learn and ended up falling into a bush. Unlike Kelly Ripa, I refused to get back up and try again.
- Last summer I was diagnosed with PCOS. When the doctor told me I couldn’t have kids I had mixed emotions. I’m still working through them today.
- After eighteen years of abandonment, I found and met my father thanks to FaceBook.
- The first time I ever stood up for myself was when I was sexually harassed at work at a previous job. After weeks of having to work in close proximity with this one man I couldn’t take it anymore. I complained and told my story to someone above me and she turned it around on me. Because I was a woman that made me flirty, maybe it was the way I dressed, or maybe it was because he was an older man and it was a generational thing. I blamed myself even though I was the victim. I felt guilty and disgusting. What’s worse is I’ve gotten over this disgusting man who made my skin crawl but I have never gotten over how this woman made me feel. She enjoyed making me feel small. I couldn’t sit down like everyone else because then she thought I wasn’t working and would question why am I sitting down? People noticed but never said anything. The way I dressed and looked was also an issue. I was the only person that couldn’t wear jeans or had to wear a blazer and a blouse because according to her how I looked was a problem. Others came in with jeans, t-shirts and earrings with pictures of Tupac and Biggie on them but it was never an issue.
- My mother named me after the actress Alyssa Milano because she thought she was pretty. I was originally supposed to be named after my grandmother but there were too many Maria’s in my family already and she thought it would be confusing. Bonus: Years later we found out my grandmothers real name was Anna Maria when my Aunt had to go to Puerto Rico and get her birth certificate.
- My current travel bucket list consists of: Nashville, Chicago, New Orleans, Italy, Barcelona, China, Australia, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Ireland, and Argentina. I’d like to go back to Greece to visit different islands. I’m visiting Nashville in September and Barcelona in December.
- I want to run the Brooklyn Half-Marathon but I’m not sure my old lady knee can handle it. I slipped when I was running a few years ago and had to limp two miles back to my car. Ever since then my left knee has never been the same but it’s still a goal I’m working towards.
Leave a comment below sharing something about yourself you’d like me to know.